You Are Never Going To Be Them

Now that title sounds a bit negative but quite on the contrary! Media and such like constantly falsely portray figures, they often make them seem perfect and from a young age we aspire to be them. Or closer to home, we often look at others, often knowing very little about them, and assume their life is beyond compare. Now I am no researcher or psychologist however I can comfortably say nine times out of ten their life has just as many ups and downs. We often hide from others our true issues with only a select few knowing our foibles and from the outside looking in it looks like we have our lives together. Lesson one is right there, it shows that judging others is a bigggg no no. We have not the slightest clue what others are going through! Give people the kindness you would wish to receive, it is easier and more fulfilling to be nice to people than rude! 

Back to the subject in matter, the more you know me the more you know I can go off topic at a great tangent… The point is, although it is okay to look at other people, whether that be a celebrity or someone else, and think that they are cool or inspirational it is important to not get hung up on the fact that they are perfect. No one is perfect and we all have our imperfections. Looking for the good in people is fine but as soon as it starts becoming detrimental to the way we feel about ourselves and the moment we start comparing our lives to others we have to take a massive step back and look at the pain that we are causing ourselves. Not one person is the same and although it may appear no one is perfect. Often the people we think are perfect are going through something that is extremely difficult or may hate something about themselves. I am a massive culprit of looking at other people and thinking they are perfect, thinking their life is better than mine, thinking they have got their life figured out and thinking they are prettier but when you actually find out more about them they often hate themselves as much as everyone hates themselves and have millions of issues. 
We are never going to be happy if we constantly compare ourselves to others and I know I have a long way to go before I will be able to stop doing this myself, it is human, it is instinct, it is what we do to ourselves but it is vital that we as individuals can be glad to be ourselves in order to achieve happiness and love for who we are. No matter what kind things people say to us we can not look past others and not compare. My friend the other day complimented my hair and although I was so amazingly grateful for what she said I still looked at her and thought how much nicer she looked than I did, it is almost subconscious, I can not help it! But we all must learn, the people we think are perfect dislike themselves and look at someone else and think they are perfect and so on; a vicious circle. Remember you are you and that is an amazing beautiful thing! 

Lots of love 


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