I am writing this after watching a heart-breaking video on social media… In all honesty it truly hit a nerve. A young girl of age 14, took her life because of the effects of social media, such an innocent life. I almost find it hard to comprehend how this can happen, it is horrible and something that needs to be talked about a lot more. People clearly do not realise how their words can instil pain in someone, a person who does not deserve this pain, no one deserves to feel like this. How can people of this world think that they have the authority to use social media in a way that destroys someone. When it gets too far it is not only that person that you are affecting; you affect their families and all of the other relationships that this person has. People need to think about the way that their words are going to affect others, think before you send a message… these people who think that it is acceptable are actually cowards. Most would never dream of saying these things to someone face, but just because they are sat at the safety of a mobile or computer screen they think their words are not as relevant. It is beyond me why people would do this, I am honestly in shock… why? I keep asking this question over and over. What makes people think that they can do this? Why would people do this? What do they think that they will gain from causing someone to feel awful? Social media was not made for this. It was made to communicate positively with others; facebook to share life events, instagram to capture moments and the list goes on. Social media is powerful, and it can be used positively, to spread joy and inspiration.
What I would stress is that if you are a victim of bullying online (or any kind!), speak out. There will always be someone around you that can listen, even if you do not feel like there is. You matter! Your life is beautiful and it is valuable. You are going places, amazing places, places that you simply could not dream of right now. Although personally I have never experienced such an harrowing time I want to voice out that, although it is probably harder than I could ever imagine, you should never feel like you have to take your own life. These people deserve to be found out, so speak up. Tell someone you trust. You will not regret it! Because once you tell someone, you are going to feel a hundred times stronger, you are going to feel like you have the confidence to stand against this. Show these people that you are bigger than their horridness, stand proud with a smile on your face! What these people tell you is lies, they are trying to mess with your head, but be that beautiful person you are. You are NEVER alone!
Back again, it has been a while. Many apologies. Positivity. A word that is often easier to say than it is actually to be. Important? Well YES! Life can often be that draining that we throw positivity out the window, it is easy to do and I certainly do such a thing, often subconsciously. We often think just getting through life without positivity is fine, well yes and no. Yes because you conquered another day, legend, but no because what is life without being positive. I, personally, try to be positive most of the time and I like to think that comes through but let us be honest that does not always happen. It became clear of recent (thanks to a lovely friend) that I am not always positive with myself. I concentrate so much on being positive towards others and trying to get through life simultaneously, that I forget, well in a way, the most important thing… being self positive, if you will. The thought caught me off guard, like I seem like a positive person and I am, but I was missing myself out of this equation. I guess I never realised that I lacked in self belief, it kind of becomes a part of you. I did not do it intentionally by any stretch, I wish I knew why I did it. Surely the best way to get through life is to be positive, right?! Course it is… You will make it through life in a much smoother fashion. Darling, positivity is stylish… You see that new Chanel handbag? That new pair of football boots? Positivity, well, it is more stylish than them, trust me. You know when your head turns when you see that dude sporting those new Yeezys, yeye well heads turn when you sport that self-belief and positivity!
Personally, I have a very long way to go, longer than the 10k I am running next month, potentially longer than it would take to get to the moon and right back again, but each step counts in improving the way you view yourself, and that is positively. I guess I do not really have any tips on this subject because it is something I fall short on myself but what I will say is believe you can do it, believe people when they say you are amazing; they are not telling you that for the good of themselves, and finally believe that with a little faith and a tonne of self-belief you can conquer whatever is thrown at you- You have your racquet ready to whack it at full throttle back at the face of it. Life is more than just about “living” it is about cat-walking with sass and gratitude through the life you have been so beautifully given.
Tell yourself this (Please excuse me while I tell myself the same):
You can do anything.
You are an athlete; you can jump any life hurdle.
You are a model; you can walk with self-believing sass.
You are stylish; you can exhibit positivity.
Much love, Me xoxo
Lots of Love